How to be Alone

Being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. The most confident people not only shine in a group setting, they bask in their own company. But how can you make the most out of your solitude?

1. Meditate

With everyone constantly in a rush and on the go, it oftentimes feels like it’s impossible to take a step back and just breathe. Everyone has at least 5 minutes in the morning.

Practice making a habit of setting aside a couple of minutes in the morning to just sit–you don’t have to memorize any mantras, just shut your mind off for at least five minutes. If your find your mind naturally wanders onto the stresses of your day, redirect your focus to your senses: what do you hear? What do you feel?

This is the time to take note of any sensations you feel in your body. Make sure you are focusing on your breathing, and don’t beat yourself up for losing focus.

Mindfulness is an excellent way to press “pause” on your mind and reset yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

2. Go Outside

Get off your ass and get out of the house. People underestimate the therapeutic properties of nature; simply going for a walk in the park can boost your mood and hello clear your mind.

For this with relentless allergies, you can challenge yourself to visit new scenes in your city. Try out a new bar or coffee shop, shop for some natural hair products. Whatever you do, just get off your ass.

3. Exercise

Speaking of getting off you ass….get off your ass. I know half you are going to ignore this step, but physical activity is a proven way to fight the blues.  Your body literally releases endorphins whenever you move…so move!

Exercise doesn’t have to mean lifting heavy weights (even though we all benefit from it). Make it fun and personable to you–twerk out your frustrations, or double dutch your worries away. You can even start out with a simple walk around the neighborhood.

Just. Move.

4. Get a New Hobby

It sounds so simple, but sometimes it really is the simple pleasures in life that make it that much sweeter. Challenge yourself to try something new.

Teach yourself a new trick on your skateboard. Take up knitting, or videogames ( I HIGHLY suggest the Kingdom Hearts series). I personally believe hobbies should be a cross between a peaceful mindless activity and a passion project.

Challenge yourself to actually do things; we oftentimes find ourselves glued to our phones and before we know we’ve wasted several hours of our lives. A life absent of pursuing your passions is as bland a Becky’s potato salad.

No one should be alone, but some solitude is necessary. It’s not about being by yourself, it’s what you do when you’re by yourself. In times as uncertain as these, it’s important that we learn to love the presence of our own company no matter what the circumstance is.

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